Here are 3 simple questions you need to ask yourself right now just to see if you’re taking yourself for granted.
If you seem to be spending your life putting yourself last, in every situation, then my hope is that after reading this short post, you to find a little bit of clarity and at the same time put a whole lot of joy back into your life.
1. Have I found the joy?
Have you discovered what it is in your life that brings you joy? The 'thing' that makes you feel warm and happy from the inside out. The ‘something’ that whenever you think about it makes everything in your life simply that little bit better.
It absolutely doesn't matter what it is. Your life partner. Your lover. Your pet iguana. Your saucy new Basque. Your granny's fish pie. Your morning meditation. Your yoga class. Fell running in the Lake District. Whatever it is. Take your mind there whenever life becomes challenging. Which leads nicely into question number 2.
2. How do I handle challenges?
The happiest people are happy simply because they have worked life out. They know that there will always be a challenge. Car breaks down, it’s pouring with rain and you’re late for your job interview. You’ve got a hot date with Charlie from marketing and you can't find your skimpy knicks. An asteroid is about to strike and it’s impact point is going to be Birmingham’s finest yoga studio. You lose your job and the mortgage is due. How you handle life’s challenges will go a long way to determining your happiness. So stop waiting for life to get easier and plan for the next challenge to rear its head.
3. Am I helping others to find the joy in their lives? ‘
If you want to be happy, make someone else happy and a little bit of that happiness will rub off on you.’
Pick a day and spend it just giving of yourself, freely, without expecting anything in return.
Carry a strangers shopping to their car next time you’re at Tesco. Pay for the car behind you next time you’re at the MacDonald’s drive through. If you’re a therapist, give away a day of therapies for a donation to the local hospice. If you’re a hairdresser, give up a day to cut all the homeless peoples hair at the local shelter. Or simply give up an hour of your time to listen to a friend who is going through a rough time without feeling you need to fix them or give them your advice.
“Learn to light a candle in the darkest moments of someone’s life. Be the light that helps others see; it is what gives life its deepest significance.”
― Roy T. Bennett
have a great week